The good news is that it’s not necessary to be smitten with your date at first glance. Our first impressions are usually completely superficial, and that’s what gives us the best chance of a successful long-term relationship. So take your time and approach your date with confidence and humility. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Learn to see things through someone else’s eyes, then share your own thoughts with your date. It’s your first chance to get to know someone, so be daring and open up to them.

Set the Mood

You don’t have to go all-out with ambience to get your date started. Taking the time to dress well on a first date is the perfect way to set the mood. Dressing up in a sharp outfit is a good way to show your date you’re interested. Show your date you have style, and they will want to show you their own. In short, dressing up sets the vibe and puts your date at ease.

What you wear isn’t really relevant (obviously), but your outfits should match your personality. If you’re playful, cute, flirty, or a little loud, wear something fun. But if you’re dour and moody, choose an outfit that won’t match your mood. You’ll have a better time if you match your demeanor and your date’s demeanor.

Use a great conversational opener

If you’re nervous and don’t know what to say, try asking your date what’s up. Showing interest in your date’s life gives them incentive to tell you more about themselves. You also might find out if your dates do the same with you, which is a good way to gauge personality types.

Dating advice?

As you get to know your date, it’s good to have a few guidelines. Here are a few things you can ask a date to get to know one another:

Where are you from?

Do you have any interest in?

What do you like to do?

What do you think you’ll do in the future?

What’s your dream job?

Why do you feel like you need a dream job?

What do you like to do in your free time?

What are you passionate about?

How did you get where you are today?

Do you have a family?

Do you have any pets?

Who is your hero?
Before you start dating, find out if you’re emotionally ready. Here’s what you should be asking yourself when deciding whether or not you are emotionally ready for another relationship. You can also look into The Gottman Method to see if you and your partner-to-be are on the same wavelength.

I think my date is too good to be true. I should worry about being lonely.

It’s hard to find a partner you can trust, and when you do meet someone who fits you perfectly, it can happen quite quickly. Tension often ensues when one partner sees another as unattainable, and the height of that tension is when someone thinks their partner has a good thing going on, and is just waiting for them to realize that their partner is perfect for them. If you’re wondering if you should be worried about how easy your date seems to be having it, here are a few things to keep in mind.

1. Don’t obsess about matching. If the person you’re dating is less driven and more patient than you are, isn’t it possible that you would be the one to make the first move? That’s how relationships work, and no one can be in another relationship with you.

2. Don’t spend too much time comparing. You might be one of many fish in a big pond, but if you get too fixated on what your partner’s like, you’re not going to enjoy the whole experience. It’s no fun to compare yourself to someone else when you don’t know what you want in the end.

3. Don’t throw around the “l” word too soon. If you’re struggling with whether or not the person you’re dating will be a good match for you, don’t go right to the “L” word. Don’t say “I like you, I think we should date” when you haven’t had any contact with your new potential beau. How do you know he or she will be a good match, and you want to take the plunge? There will be plenty of time for that later, and you should feel good when you reach it.

You think your partner is better than you are, you see your partner as a perfect match, and now you’re jumping in with both feet and getting ready to hear it in this next relationship. That’s a recipe for misery. Why risk it?

Your partner will be a better fit for you.

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