Dating: A Myth?

Of course you’ve heard of dating; heck, even you’re probably part of one. It’s an activity that people engage in on a regular basis. But, is this dating thing as old as it gets? Is the Internet to blame for the downfall of romance? Do people today experience more physical intimacy than they used to? Are hookups more acceptable than before?

We can all agree that things have changed—but the dating experience hasn’t really gotten any easier. It may be time to reassess the way we view the pastime and how we approach it.

The History of Dating

Dating has long been a part of human culture. As evidence, consider the following:

Ancient Egyptians, perhaps the first civilization to record romance in any way, had a complex dating system that involved math.

Novelists Charles Dickens and Henry James wrote about the concept of “courtship,” including its long, drawn-out, and involved nature.

One of the most famous paintings of all time, Botticelli’s “Birth of Venus,” refers to the guiding presence of Love and Venus.

The word “courtship” is first recorded in English (1600s).

Dating can be traced as far back as ancient Egypt (1700s).

“Dating” appeared on a 1963 song by Marvin Gaye.

Vintage Wedding Date-Setting Solutions

Good Cupid has fashioned a modern approach to these timeless traditions. With the help of Pinterest and the Web, you can find everything from flower arrangements to exotic travel destinations, relevant to your own relationship dreams. Here are some more ideas to get you started:

Pre-Planning: The internet is a great resource for finding a restaurant or host for your dream date. There is no reason not to put this experience into your long-term memory bank, as it will come in handy on future dates.

Book a Date: The easier you can make that initial date, the more you can ensure a fantastic experience for both of you.

Set a Fine Table: While you’re at it, why not put on your best, most sophisticated outfit? Food For Love explores a variety of date nights that work well for couples of all ages and budgets.

Drink Some Coffee: “Coffee” has a whole host of connotations.
When it comes to approaching and being approached, it can be hard to know what to do. Sometimes you are just looking to make out, and sometimes you want to take it a step further. We’ve got you covered, with advice on when to play the game, when to give it a rest, and how to know when it’s a good time to ask for a second date.

When You’re Just Looking to Grind

A lot of people think that there is more to dating than just sex. While an occasional hookup is fun, a lot of people are looking to make a genuine relationship. So if you’re simply looking for a booty call, here’s a few things you might want to consider before you ask someone out.

Why Grind Before You Call

If you are just looking to go out with someone and have some sex, you’re not looking to have a relationship with that person. Getting laid is great, but if you feel like you’re just going through the motions, that’s probably not the kind of relationship you want. If you’re comfortable with the fact that you’re just having sex with this person, it’s okay to ask for an out clause in your terms of services. You may not be interested in a romantic relationship, but most people feel pressured to have sex on their first date. If you want to have casual sex, that’s fine; if you’re looking for more, explain yourself clearly and politely.

You Don’t Want to Make Commitment

If you’re not looking to have a real relationship with this person, then it’s probably better to take a break until you feel ready to have a serious relationship. If you’re meeting a new person every weekend or every few weeks, it’s easy to grow sloppy and invested. You may find yourself making promises you can’t keep because you don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings. If you don’t have any feelings about being with this person, you shouldn’t make any promises, no matter how small they may seem to you. If you’re not ready for a long-term commitment, telling someone who wants a good relationship that you are not interested will make a great amount of sense to them. You don’t have to give this person false promises in order to be polite.

You Don’t Want to Give Up the Right to Have Sex With Someone Else

Even if you aren’t into long-term relationships, you shouldn’t hesitate to have casual sex with new people. You shouldn